How to Use a Male Masturbator

You’ve contemplated getting a male masturbator . After some thought, you finally ordered one.

It’s come. You’ve looked at it and gone, “I should probably learn how to use this thing before I hurt myself”.

Well, good news, it’s unlikely you’ll hurt yourself. Male masturbators are completely safe for multiple penis shapes and sizes (yes, that includes lefties, also).

Bad news? Well, there isn’t any. You’re about to learn how to use a male masturbator, and the experience will leave your mind blown. 

A male masturbator is a sexual device (or toy) designed for men to enhance the pleasure of masturbation.

Usually, these devices include a hollow interior with various textures that can simulate the sensation of sexual intercourse. They also come in different shapes, sizes, and materials. 

45% of men aged 18 to 60 use a sexual toy. Why? Because of the following reasons:

1. It’s Safer Than Sex

Sex is important, don’t get us wrong. But it isn’t always safe. There are protection measures you can take, but it’s still possible to get an STI.

In America, most people are unaware of how common STIs are. According to KFF , only 36% of the US public know they’ve become “more common” in the last ten years.

But how common is common? Research by the CDC suggested that in 2018, there were 68 million STIs on any given day in the US. We can only assume that this number has increased.

With a male masturbator, however, there’s no STI risk. It’s just you and your toy. Nothing else.

2. It Can Reduce Stress Tension

Masturbation, in general, has some health benefits. Medical News Today suggests it can release all types of hormones and chemicals to reduce stress and tension.

A male masturbator, however, could possibly increase this release. It’s just better than your hand—simply put. Therefore, it won’t just “feel” better, but it’ll “make” you feel better.

Please note, however, that too much is always too much - with or without a male masturbator.

3. It Can Fulfill Your Fantasies

There are many different male masturbators available. One that’s getting more popular nowadays is the anatomical masturbator, particularly the ones that are shaped like popular pornstars.

For example, the Sasha Grey Ass and Vagina Stroker from Zero Tolerance. This is shaped like Sasha Grey’s “Goodies” and comes with a special video from Sasha herself. If you’re a big fan of her work, this will certainly fulfill some fantasies.

4. It Can Train You to Last Longer

The research doesn’t lie. Most men can’t last long. Dr Randal S. Olson actually suggests that men last around 6 minutes in bed.

Using a male masturbator, however, can help you last longer. You can do this by training your stamina with the “edging” technique.

This technique is where you bring yourself close to climax, but before climaxing, you stop. Over time, your body will get used to sustaining a high level of arousal without actually releasing your goods.

In total, there are two different types of male masturbators: non-anatomical and anatomical masturbators.

Non-Anatomical Masturbators

These masturbators (also known as strokes) don’t resemble any part of the human body—for example, a mouth, vagina, etc. It’s a device that feels good on your penis without looking like anything “sexual”. 

This, and many other non-anatomical devices, come with a bunch of features—for example, heating (or cooling), customizable patterns, and the latest, Bluetooth connectivity. That’s why they’re normally the best male masturbators.

The Bluetooth connectivity has been a big breakthrough, especially with AI. You can connect these male toys to applications like FeelConnect , allowing you to interact with adult content with your device.

Anatomical Masturbators

You also have Anatomical masturbators, which, unlike non-anatomical masturbators, look like a body part—for example, an ass, vagina, mouth, etc.

Most of the time, these are shaped by the body parts of famous pornstars, providing an extra feeling of fantasy. Alongside this, they usually have fewer features and are just a silicone mold. 

If you haven’t got a male masturbator, you’ll want to find the right option for you. You can do this by following the guide below:

1. Type of Masturbator

When choosing the right male masturbator for you, consider the different types.

As you now know, there are two main types: anatomical and non-anatomical masturbators.

However, alongside this, you also have masturbators that are manual or automatic. You also have toys with different speeds, tightness, and other features.

Before buying one, just get to know the different types so you can purchase the best one that fits your preferences.

Plus, if you don’t want to buy one, you can always make a homemade male masturbator . They’re not as good, but they get the job done.

2. Materials

A lot of male masturbators are silicone, TPE, or cyber skin. These are used to mimic the “real” feeling of getting head or having sex.

Though all the materials feel similar, they are different from one another. Some are softer, some are more flexible, some feel better than others (based on personal preference), etc.

When choosing a material, think about what you’d prefer as well as your budget. Typically, the more realistic ones are more expensive.

3. Size and Portability

You also have different sizes and, therefore, different levels of portability. Of course, the smaller, more compact models will be easier to transport than, let’s say, a large, anatomical masturbator ass.

4. Noise Level

If you’re choosing an automatic male masturbator, think about the noise level. Most of them are pretty quiet. It’s like a quiet “hum”. However, others are a lot louder. If noise is an issue, you’ll want to know what decibel the toy produces.

5. Additional Features

With some of the newer automatic toys, you get some wild features. Twists, suction, vibration, speeds, up and down motions, noises, you name it, there’s a toy out there with it. Therefore, know what features you want from a toy before buying one.

6. Price Range

Last but not least is the price. Sale masturbators range massively in price. At Muf, we have male masturbators ranging from $7 all the way to $400+ . This, of course, is a huge deciding factor. Just know that toys with more advanced features will cost more.

You now have a male masturbator, great. Now it’s time to use it. For the best experience, follow the below steps:

Step 1: Prepare Your Toy

Before you do anything, grab your toy and some lube . For most male masturbators, a water-based lube is recommended.

Once you have them, apply lube to the toy and your penis. If needed, you can apply more. Try not to over lube, however.

Step 2: Get Aroused & Insert

If you have your lubed-up male toy, we’re sure you’re pretty aroused already. However, if not, get excited, think about something, watch some adult content, or start kissing your partner.

Once erect, you can then slowly insert your penis into the toy. If it’s your first time, be slow. To begin with, it can feel a bit different. However, you’ll end up loving it. Just play around with the settings (if available).

Step 3: Find What Feels “Good”

Explore a little with your male masturbator. Mess around with the settings, try different positions, or make it hands-free. Just find what feels good for you.

Step 4: Explore & Enjoy

You don’t need to rush anything (unless someone is coming home), so explore and have fun. Try inserting the toy from different angles or use more toys, like a prostate massager . 

There are one hundred and ten ways to make your male masturbator experience better. However, the top 4 ways are below:

1. Experiment

What you like is different from the person next door. We’re all different in our sexual preferences.

That being said, you probably don’t even know what you like. You may think you do, but you’re not 100% certain.

Therefore, get 100% certain. Experiment with your toy. Use the different movements, speeds, intensity levels, locations (as long as they’re safe), and so forth.

You never know. Something you thought you didn’t like, you might love. That’s the magic of experimentation.

2. Use Other Toys

Without question, the most popular toy among US males is a male masturbator. Research also shows this: 

However, as you can see, there are a few more toys that are popular. Without question, men can use all of these toys if they want. It depends on preference.

A lot of the time, though, men go towards bondage gear , butt plugs , cock rings , etc. So maybe give them a go as well.

3. Try Different Positions

It doesn't matter what male masturbator you have, realistic or non-realistic, you can try out a bunch of different positions.

You don’t need to just jerk or pump the toys. You can wedge the toys on your couch, use it in the bathroom, perhaps in the shower, stand up, sit down, lay in your bed, look in the mirror, whatever it may be, try it.

4. Use it During Foreplay

Plus, these toys aren’t only for solo masturbation. You can use it with a partner. Again, you can go into experimental mode with this, try it as a foreplay option, add it to the action, or finish with it. 

Only 57% of guys clean their sex toys after use. Don’t be the other 43%. It’ll become sticky, tacky, and unpleasant. Clean it using the tips below:

1. Cleaning

After each use, you should be clearing your masturbator. If not, it’ll get sticky and gross, so just clean it.

You can clean these toys with some warm water and mild soap. However, you can also get specialized cleaning solutions for them as well.

Both options will be able to clean the toy sufficiently. Some prefer specialized cleaning solutions, however, as they have the right mix of cleaning solutions.

2. Drying

Once you’ve cleaned your male masturbator, you need to dry it. If you don’t dry it effectively, mold and bacteria can grow, so this step is remarkably important.

Simple put, after cleaning, position it in a way that the fluid (cleaning solution) can exit. Upside down or something like that.

Some toys may even come with a drying rack, yes, a drying rack for your male toy, which you can use.

3. Renewing Powder

If your stoker is made from TPE or TPR, it can lose its quality over time. They can get sticky and tacky. That being said, you restore them with renewing powder . We recommend you do this every once in a while to maintain the toy's quality.

4. Storage

When storing your toy, it should be in a clean, dry place. A lot of the time, they’ll come with a fabric bag or something similar. However, if you need something a bit more durable, you can check out these storage options .

5. Regular Cleaning

Because you’re using lube, it’s best to clean the male masturbator every time you use it, especially if you’re ejaculating inside it.

If you don’t use lube or ejaculate inside it, you can probably get away with not cleaning it every time. Maybe every two or three times would be suitable. However, use your judgment here. 

More often than not, male masturbators are looked at as a “solo” toy. However, you can use it with a partner. Neither is better than the other; it all depends on preference.

As you can see, using a male masturbator isn’t so difficult. They’ve been designed in a way that makes the experience simple - just like it is normally.

All you need to do is lube it up, get aroused, stick it in there, and enjoy it. It’s really that simple. There isn’t too much you need to consider.

If you’re interested in purchasing a new toy, check out our male masturbator collection . We have a ton of different options available, ranging in realism, design, and price.