Having sex can be pretty nerve-wracking for various reasons; whether
you're inexperienced, with a new person, or are insecure about the way you
look, nervousness can really get in the way of having a fulfilling sex life. A
dreaded sentence for many people is 'you get on top', so here are four things
to keep in mind to help ease the pressure of riding cowgirl style.
You are Not 'Too Heavy'
People thinking that they are 'too heavy' is arguably the biggest reason
why they do not feel comfortable astride their partner, but please remember
that they are not going to crumble beneath your thighs! The human body is
incredibly resilient and able to withstand much greater pressures than a bit of
junk in the trunk, so do not let that get in the way of you riding to your
heart's content. On the off chance that your partner is being crushed to death,
they will certainly let you know.
They Know What You Look
Like
If you do have a plus-sized body, this will not be a secret to your
lover. If somebody is deciding to have sex with you, whether it be a one-night
stand or a long-term relationship, they most likely have an idea of what your
body looks like naked. They will be able to see that you are fuller figured
(yes, even with your clothes on!) so if they still ask you to get on top, then
that clearly does not bother them, and nor should it. They are not going to run
away screaming as soon as you undress, in fact there is a 99.99% chance of them
being utterly thrilled, as they should be! If they are having sex with you then
they obviously find you attractive, so treat their lap like a stage and put on
the hottest show you can!
It's Not Like the Movies
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when it comes to sex is
comparing your own sexual performance to that of porn stars. While watching
porn can be handy for learning a few new tips and tricks, most people do not
have the ability to 'go at it' like that. In real life, getting on top can
involve aches and pains, clicking knees, and getting out of breath - this is
totally normal! Adult entertainers are PROFESSIONALS who have honed their craft
so to speak, so they will give a more perfected performance. So don't feel bad
if you can't ride for more than a few minutes or get into that insane squat position
you keep seeing in videos. Take your time and enjoy yourself.
Blindfolds are Your Friend
Gaining confidence on top can be tricky, so if you want to take baby
steps then blindfolding your partner can be a great place to start, as well as
adding an extra sexy element to the experience. This way, you can really tease
them and get into a rhythm that feels comfortable for you without having to
worry about looking 'silly'. You could practice going slower and at a faster
pace, get up close and personal, or lean back and go full cowgirl. This kinky
extra will surely be a hit for both you and your partner.
